12.32 pm Tuesday afternoon as the train headed towards Thane from Matunga station, I started looking for a seat to sit and start reading the newspaper that I had just purchased. My eyes spotted a vacant window seat but the sight of a black office bag adjacent to the window halted my hurry to reach the seat.
Whose bag is this? I asked, while attempting to identify a suspicious face amongst the various faces around, that I had made a mental note of. “This bag is mine son!” said an old man seated exactly opposite the vacant seat reading some notes he had made out of an astrology book.
Though relieved, I continued observing the bag’s owner with suspicious thoughts such as “If this was his bag, why didn’t he keep it with him initially? Why do people have to be so inconsiderate about other people’s feelings? Etc. While I was playing the role of this security guard screening for individuals with anti social elements, the man continued the reading of his notes with this look of internal peace and calm on his face.
Two more stations passed and I continued the screening without knowing the reason or the objective behind this one off routine. It could have been a spontaneous reaction to the recent horrifying news about the blast at the famous bakery in pune.Finally attempting to divert my thoughts to the newspaper, I started updating my self about our “Little Master’s” latest achievement at the Eden in Kolkatta but without success. This guilt of picturing this elderly man as anti social started killing me from inside.
As I exited the station on completing a significant part of my journey to office, the guilt of doubting some one who was my own accompanied me towards it. Though, I had never met him before nor were we related, we shared the same soil at our respective roots (both of us were Indians).
As the day went by I couldn’t get the afternoon’s incident off my mind. It got me thinking that how many times in our lives do we doubt the ones close to us. Let’s say a married couple doubting each other’s loyalty, a friend doubting the other’s intentions in a matter of common interest etc…We do it all the time.
I am yet to meet anyone who claims that he has never doubted anyone nor will I be able to comment on the reason why we do it, guess we are born that way. Those of us who would give this topic a thought may want to press the panic button as there is no permanent solution available. However once we know that the problem exists or may crop up in the future we can make provisions to minimise the impact e.g. make conscious efforts to give others a fair chance before forming a notion that would be with us that moment onwards, proactively make efforts to set and maintain an open and a truth based foundation in all our relationships etc….
All I am trying to say is be open minded, demand and give others the required space, be true to yourself and reiterate again and again that It’s the worst when we doubt our own……
Saturday, February 27, 2010
Saturday, February 13, 2010
Choose right.... while you wait.
Beep.. beep.. 1 message received..
“God upsets our plans only to set his plans for us. He does this because we see our present and plan our future, but God sees our future and plans our PRESENT..”
Post reading this message that I had just received on my mobile, the first question that struck my mind was “Do we, the creations of the Almighty just have to wait while he executes his plans for us?” The answer was yes!!!
What does the word “wait” mean? If asked this question few weeks ago I would have written wait means stay, remain, hang around, linger etc…. but thanks to one of my life’s leading lady who said “ Mo! writing about something does not mean just using it's synonyms and forming some sentences with them..it means actually giving the subject a deep thought and writing exactly what u believe and feel about it.”
Hours and hours of logical thinking later, it was clear that I was just a pawn in the masters game plan and there was no way that I could change that fact. However the one thing that was in my hands was, what I chose to do while I was waiting for my destiny to be fulfilled. The choice I had in front of me was to crib and complain about something that I wanted but did not get as it was not a part of my destiny or to put myself out there, to live every day to the fullest without any fear of the unseen, put in efforts I never thought I could for something of prime importance to me.
You’ll say “Man proposes, God disposes” if it’s not a part of his plan for us, then why do we choose the latter? The answer to that is that we should also remember that God says “Put in your best and ask me for the rest?” We should remember the fact that he cares for his creations more than what we can actually imagine. So what if a guy pulls of some impossible feats and still isn’t lucky to end up with the girl of his dreams, his efforts were not a waste as the success of the various attempts made him discover certain abilities that he never thought were in him. His choice to give it his best despite of the fact that he knew the end result was not a total waste.
Let’s take one more instance… There was this person who knew that the days of her worldly life were limited. She could have chosen to cry and feel miserable about the condition she was in, but she chose otherwise. She started planning and executing the ideas that would bring her loved ones some happiness which she would not live to witness. Some say she did not get anything for her efforts but I beg to differ on that, not only did she succeed in getting a smile on the faces of the people she loved at the same time she taught them life’s biggest lesson “We can get happiness by not living just for ourselves but also for others as well”
I urge the readers of this article to give what I said above a thought, "choose right! while you wait", bear in mind that by putting ourselves out there and with genuine efforts we may be able to convince our “Creator” to reconsider his plans for us and bless us with success in our attempts if found appropriate.
“God upsets our plans only to set his plans for us. He does this because we see our present and plan our future, but God sees our future and plans our PRESENT..”
Post reading this message that I had just received on my mobile, the first question that struck my mind was “Do we, the creations of the Almighty just have to wait while he executes his plans for us?” The answer was yes!!!
What does the word “wait” mean? If asked this question few weeks ago I would have written wait means stay, remain, hang around, linger etc…. but thanks to one of my life’s leading lady who said “ Mo! writing about something does not mean just using it's synonyms and forming some sentences with them..it means actually giving the subject a deep thought and writing exactly what u believe and feel about it.”
Hours and hours of logical thinking later, it was clear that I was just a pawn in the masters game plan and there was no way that I could change that fact. However the one thing that was in my hands was, what I chose to do while I was waiting for my destiny to be fulfilled. The choice I had in front of me was to crib and complain about something that I wanted but did not get as it was not a part of my destiny or to put myself out there, to live every day to the fullest without any fear of the unseen, put in efforts I never thought I could for something of prime importance to me.
You’ll say “Man proposes, God disposes” if it’s not a part of his plan for us, then why do we choose the latter? The answer to that is that we should also remember that God says “Put in your best and ask me for the rest?” We should remember the fact that he cares for his creations more than what we can actually imagine. So what if a guy pulls of some impossible feats and still isn’t lucky to end up with the girl of his dreams, his efforts were not a waste as the success of the various attempts made him discover certain abilities that he never thought were in him. His choice to give it his best despite of the fact that he knew the end result was not a total waste.
Let’s take one more instance… There was this person who knew that the days of her worldly life were limited. She could have chosen to cry and feel miserable about the condition she was in, but she chose otherwise. She started planning and executing the ideas that would bring her loved ones some happiness which she would not live to witness. Some say she did not get anything for her efforts but I beg to differ on that, not only did she succeed in getting a smile on the faces of the people she loved at the same time she taught them life’s biggest lesson “We can get happiness by not living just for ourselves but also for others as well”
I urge the readers of this article to give what I said above a thought, "choose right! while you wait", bear in mind that by putting ourselves out there and with genuine efforts we may be able to convince our “Creator” to reconsider his plans for us and bless us with success in our attempts if found appropriate.
Sunday, February 7, 2010
"I am all alone"......choose to make this feeling go away
I am all alone!!! This is the thought that plays in the mind of a person without a date on the day of love, an individual on a train headed towards the city of dreams , an orphan child , a team member without a supportive boss in the hour of need, a girl taking the first step in her connubial life etc…
Till the start of last year, the quote that “Man is a social animal” influenced my actions. Meeting new people, constant efforts to add more and more names to my list of friends was that activity that offered security and confirmed my belief that I would never be alone.
Post my interaction with some most amazingly unique human beings, hearing about a few of them from someone close and observing a few with the naked eye, I concluded that it was about time my set of existing beliefs required a fresh evaluation. Intense discussions and experience sharing sessions with the members of the “Mo” clan a new set of beliefs were written.
Humans allow their prototype to be around them for convenience, once a breakthrough is made with the one offering more the existing one is discarded. Also the belief that all I need is the confidence in my abilities to cross any hurdle that I find in my path, I concluded that I will never be alone because my set of beliefs will always be there with me.
But today after losing someone so special, more important to me then I thought she was, the foundation of my recently set beliefs was totally shaken from it's roots.Today I feel like a kid whose teacher sent him to a corn field to find out the true meaning of the word “Love”. I did not realize that the person I am referring to was that soul mate I was searching for. So what if she was one of my closest friends, who said the person who you aspire to spend your life with or are currently with in your life’s journey, has to be your soul mate.
With her no longer with me in person, I feel helpless, I feel that any compensation paid to get her back is less, I feel all alone….. I ask the readers of this article “do we humans feel all alone only till the time we find our soul mate, the one person who completes us? Is there anything else that can make that feeling of loneliness fade away?”
If the answer to the above raised questions is “Yes!” for the first and a “No!” for the latter, then let’s not be like the kid who passes by and ignores the best bunch of corn in the field, hoping to find an even better one,finally realizing that he has already passed the best. Look deeper, pay more attention to the people around you and if fortunate you will find and get a chance to be with and cherish the one who completes you. Do it before it's too late and never ever feel alone...
Till the start of last year, the quote that “Man is a social animal” influenced my actions. Meeting new people, constant efforts to add more and more names to my list of friends was that activity that offered security and confirmed my belief that I would never be alone.
Post my interaction with some most amazingly unique human beings, hearing about a few of them from someone close and observing a few with the naked eye, I concluded that it was about time my set of existing beliefs required a fresh evaluation. Intense discussions and experience sharing sessions with the members of the “Mo” clan a new set of beliefs were written.
Humans allow their prototype to be around them for convenience, once a breakthrough is made with the one offering more the existing one is discarded. Also the belief that all I need is the confidence in my abilities to cross any hurdle that I find in my path, I concluded that I will never be alone because my set of beliefs will always be there with me.
But today after losing someone so special, more important to me then I thought she was, the foundation of my recently set beliefs was totally shaken from it's roots.Today I feel like a kid whose teacher sent him to a corn field to find out the true meaning of the word “Love”. I did not realize that the person I am referring to was that soul mate I was searching for. So what if she was one of my closest friends, who said the person who you aspire to spend your life with or are currently with in your life’s journey, has to be your soul mate.
With her no longer with me in person, I feel helpless, I feel that any compensation paid to get her back is less, I feel all alone….. I ask the readers of this article “do we humans feel all alone only till the time we find our soul mate, the one person who completes us? Is there anything else that can make that feeling of loneliness fade away?”
If the answer to the above raised questions is “Yes!” for the first and a “No!” for the latter, then let’s not be like the kid who passes by and ignores the best bunch of corn in the field, hoping to find an even better one,finally realizing that he has already passed the best. Look deeper, pay more attention to the people around you and if fortunate you will find and get a chance to be with and cherish the one who completes you. Do it before it's too late and never ever feel alone...
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